Motherhood is an Emotional Rollercoaster
There are amazing highs and terrible lows…
Let’s raise each other up during the lows and not judge, there is enough negativity in the world. Let us look for the rainbow after each storm.
It sometimes feels like all I do every day is run around trying my best to keep everyone happy while trying to not fall apart. Some days just feel like an endless blur of movement. Rush, rush, rush to get everything done. Make breakfast, get husband up and ready to...
Why can’t boys play with dolls? I don’t quite understand what is wrong with the idea of my boys playing with a doll or a baby stroller or kitchen items. As a child, I hated pink and didn’t want to play with dolls or makeup or anything girly. I played rugby and cricket...
This past Christmas was a super exciting time in our house. There was a high pitched shriek of excitement when the boys came down Christmas morning. This year there were oddly shaped gifts, which was very different to other years. This year was definitely an...
My very “first” blog in quite some time. I would like to take this opportunity to introduce myself to those of you who do not know me. How far back should I go? Not too far I suppose as this is about me as a mom and a blogger. So we will only rewind to 7 and a half...
Who is Mommy Says?11:50 on the 3rd of August 2011, the day my life changed forever. This is a day a gorgeous, 3.62kg, blue eyed healthy baby boy entered my life and changed everything I knew about life and especially LOVE.
From the moment I held my first born it all just felt right, I felt like that piece of me that was missing was finally there. I wasn’t nervous or anxious, I felt like “I’ve got this” . We had an amazing first 2 weeks, but then the honeymoon was over. I wasn’t producing enough milk and son had really bad Colic. It is during this time that I felt completely clueless and helpless.
While being pregnant I went online a bunch of times searching for answers to certain questions. Back then, and yes I know how it sounds like I am talking about decades ago, but only 7 years ago there weren’t as many places to find help online at 2 am in the morning. There was no Facebook Mommy based communities, no Mommy bloggers. I felt alone and helpless. .
Thankfully I had 2 of those in my life. I had 2 friends, one who had twins literally a week before me and one who had a little boy 5 days after I had Henri. We became each other’s support group and I am SO thankful for them.
It was during this time that I realised that most of the support platforms were in the UK and USA but not really in SA. This is where the idea behind Mommy Says came from. I wanted to create a Website, not a blog, for first time mothers. A place with all kinds of birth stories, advice on breastfeeding, introducing solids and much more…I started getting information together whilst doing some Photography jobs and being a stay at home mom. We went through a really stressful financial time when my eldest was 18 months old. It was literally one thing after the other, my husband’s business took a couple of big knocks and the company went bankrupt. We basically lost everything.
To make matters worse, I was 7 months pregnant with our second. Not the best time to be going through a financial crisis. After a very, very tough financial year, a new baby and loads of late nights, I finally had the website up and running. I had help from some friends financially and I had a midwife, a nurse, and OT, numerous mothers and myself working on the content. I also roped in my old Drama/English teacher to go through it all to check for Grammar and spelling mistakes. I decided to launch at the Mama Magic Baby Expo of 2014.
I had finally done it, the site was live, I had made a bunch of good contacts, got some amazing prizes to give away as part of my launch. I managed to get over R15 000 worth of prizes and ran 3 competitions.
One was to take a selfie at the expo, and look at the familiar face that stopped by our stand and entered.
I had one of my best friends join me for the 2 days of Mama Magic and it was so much fun. We spoke to so many people and had loads of laughs together. I stopped people to take part in the competition and to just market the idea of the website.
I was also doing some market research, asking questions to see what they would want from the site. I had the idea to launch a website just for dad’s, answering their questions, and all the dad’s I spoke to loved the idea. I had so many ideas. I wanted to have an online shop, selling items that I loved and would stand behind.
I wanted to have a recipe page for homemade baby food. A page with arts and crafts ideas. A page for family friendly restaurants and places to visit. Ideas ideas ideas…..
It went well for a bit and I received some items to review and blog about. I wrote for Mamahood for a while, but again life didn’t work out the way I had hoped. My husband struggled to find work and decided to take the leap and start a new business. I had to put my ideas on hold and help him build his business. So with that, time ran away from me and so did the blog, there was never enough hours in the day to get around to it.
I have to be honest I am quite annoyed with myself that I did, because many of the bloggers who started the same time I did are doing very well for themselves at the moment, but I try to not focus on that and just take it one day at a time. So here we are, the present. I am trying to get back into the swing of things. I still have all my 4000+ organic followers on FB, but I am now trying to get them all to also follow me on Instagram and start actively blogging again.
I have once again started building my website, albeit a MUCH smaller version of the original. .
What to expect from me…?
I will be straight from the start, I might disappoint many of you on a daily basis. I am not a typical Instagram mom. I do not have a perfect life, Top Billing type home, expensive clothes and gorgeous material things to show off in my photos. I do not post colour co-ordinated images so that I have an absolutely perfect feed. I don’t have a flatlay board, lightbox or letter board, all though I would love to have them, to show off products. I will not be posting photos of myself or doing videos, as I hate being in front of the camera.
I am me, a plain Jane from the Free State who would like to share my journey as a mom, highs and lows.
I do not have all the answers, I fail daily as a mom, wife, and entrepreneur, BUT I would like to share that with you. If I can help at least one mom at some point during this journey that would make it all worth it.
I personally think if we stop comparing our kids and our lives to other people’s we would lead happier lives.
We need to stop judging other parents for their parental choices. Breastfed vs Bottle, C-section vs Natural, etc..JUST STOP.
Let’s all rather support each other. Build each other up on a bad day, instead of judging and breaking down…
Like Ellen says “Be kind to one another”